SHATTERED, furious, resentful, heartbroken, numb, humiliated, rejected, hurt, and NOT SAFE – these are just some of the feelings we experience when we’ve been betrayed.Many people hear the word, "betrayal", and think of infidelity, yet the experience is actually much broader. Yes, the hurt feelings can result from a love betrayal, but the same symptoms can also be triggered by an unfaithful coworker or boss; betrayal in a friendship; disloyalty from a workplace, community, even country; the earth appearing to turn on us; or what is sometimes described as the ultimate betrayal - a loss of trust or faith in our relationship with “something bigger, something spiritual”. Regardless of the source, the emotional distress is often severe.
A friend knowingly breaks a confidence that causes hurt and loss of reputation; this is betrayal... A spouse professes love and loyalty while involved in an emotional affair outside the marriage; this is betrayal... A boss or organization pretends to be honest and fair while manipulating employees to exploit their talents; this is betrayal...What do these examples of broken trust have in common?
A friend knowingly breaks a confidence that causes hurt and loss of reputation; this is betrayal... A spouse professes love and loyalty while involved in an emotional affair outside the marriage; this is betrayal... A boss or organization pretends to be honest and fair while manipulating employees to exploit their talents; this is betrayal...What do these examples of broken trust have in common?
- Personal and/or cultural expectations (understood by the betrayed as “The Truth”) are present.
- Based on these expectations, whole-hearted loyalty is given to another.
- "The Truth" is shattered; often due to someone making choices despite potential, major damage to the relationship.
- Shock and intense hurt feelings inevitably result.
Unfortunately, betrayals appear to be on the rise. It helps to know that we are not alone as broken trust is a universal experience.The human need to belong and be part of a relationship makes us open and therefore vulnerable to these painful emotions. An act of betrayal can hurt as much as, if not more than, a physical injury, but the trauma resides not in the body but in the mental/emotional/spiritual realm – our subtle energy fields. If we think of betrayal as a wound to the energy system, it follows that to heal; we must acknowledge and work with this same energy system.
p/s - “The harder you fall the higher you bounce” - Horace (Circa 35 B.C.E.) so get up and bounce higher ayeem!
2 comments:
betrayal is sumting that could happen if u trust a person too much..
trust only those u have confidence in, especially ur family or spouse.
but some secrets should remain secret...just be careful n dont give the reason or means for sumone to betray u =)
i would like to quote what ija said..
"dont give the reason or means for sumone to betray u"
does that mean betrayal is actually triggered by the betrayed's own doings or wut?
if he or she has never done anything that could possibly trigger the other person to betray, would the other person still have the tendency to betray?..
hehe.. just wondering..
personally, i think to betray is not a good way in sayin "you did something bad to me, so here's what u get for it".. that's just so mean.. and immature..
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